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North Star
A framework for deciding what you're deciding for.
Before you weigh options, name the direction. A North Star is one sentence that tells you what a good decision looks like for you.
Use it in 90 seconds
One sentence that tells you what this season is for — so the small decisions stop needing debate.
- If this season went well, what would be different? Say it in one sentence.
- Does it survive a hard week, or does it only work when everything is calm?
- Could you use it tomorrow to say no to something reasonable? If not, it's still too vague.
Goals get met and then get replaced. A North Star stays. It's the version of your life, your work, your relationships you're quietly building toward, whether or not anyone else can see it yet.
Naming it is uncomfortable, because once you say it out loud, some things you're currently doing stop making sense. That discomfort is useful. It's the first honest signal about where your energy actually belongs.
You don't need the perfect words. You need one sentence you'd be willing to run a decision through today.
The key idea
A North Star isn't a goal. It's the direction every good decision quietly points toward.
A sentence only earns the name North Star if it passes all three.
01
Direction, not destination
Can you still be walking toward it in five years?
Goals finish. A North Star doesn't. If it can be completed and crossed off, it's a goal — keep it, but it isn't your North Star.
02
Yours, not borrowed
Would you still want it if nobody clapped?
Borrowed North Stars are the most expensive kind. If the appeal disappears without an audience, it belongs to someone else.
03
Usable under pressure
Does it help you say no on a bad Tuesday?
A North Star earns its place by making a hard decision easier. If it only sounds good in a journal, it isn't working yet.
01
Say it badly
What do you want more of, and less of?
Finish the sentence without editing: 'In twelve months, I want my life to look more like ______ and less like ______.' Ugly is fine. Specific beats beautiful.
02
Cut to one sentence
What survives compression?
Reduce it until it's one sentence you could say out loud to a friend. If it needs three clauses to make sense, it will never survive a real decision.
03
Test it live
Does it separate a yes from a no?
Take one decision you're sitting on and run it through. If your North Star can't tell you anything about it, it's too vague to steer with.
04
Keep it where you decide
Will you actually see it?
Put it at the top of your notes, your weekly review, your planning page. Revisit it seasonally, not daily — direction isn't meant to be renegotiated every morning.
Try this
In twelve months, I want my life to look more like and less like , even if it means .
The third blank is the one that makes it real. A direction with no cost attached is a preference, not a North Star.
Before any big decision
A job, a move, a relationship, a launch. Direction first, options second.
When two good options compete
Both can be good. Only one can be pointing where you're going.
When you feel busy but not moving
Usually a sign your effort is aimed at everyone else's direction.
At the start of a season
Name the direction before you fill the calendar, not after.
- Decide faster, because the criteria already exist
- Say no without a long explanation or guilt
- Notice drift early, before it becomes a year
- Turn scattered goals into one coherent direction
The difference between a nice thought and a usable direction.
Too vague
I want more balance.
Usable
I want work that ends at 6pm so my evenings belong to my family, even if that slows my income growth.
Too vague
I want to grow my business.
Usable
I want a business that runs on fewer, deeper client relationships rather than constant new-client hustle.
Too vague
I want to be healthier.
Usable
I want a body I can trust at 60, so movement and sleep get protected before anything optional.
One sentence, one direction.
Two North Stars is just a polite way of saying you haven't chosen.
Name the cost inside the sentence.
'Even if it means ______' is what turns a wish into a direction.
Write it in your own voice.
If it sounds like a mission statement, it will be easy to ignore.
Revisit seasonally, not daily.
Direction should be stable enough to steer by and open enough to mature.
The Decide journey walks you from your North Star through the Litmus Test, trade-offs, and timing, one step at a time.
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